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When I was younger, a few years back, I came across a video online. It was a man speaking into a camera, and women would send him photographs of themselves and in these videos, he would respond to these photographs. Complimenting them and comparing their bodies to nature, I remember him once saying 'bountiful curves like blessed mountains'. My initial thought was, he is a nice guy and he is trying to make these women feel better about themselves, but as I think about it now the sad reality of it kicks in.

Those women were essentially sending themselves to a stranger for validation, they are putting their self-worth into the mouth of this man. But, what these women perhaps do not know is; any stranger, or even a person you know, can tell you you're beautiful, but it will never mean as much as you telling yourself you are beautiful.

The only person's opinion that will truly ever matter is your own. How many compliments have you received and actually accepted at face value? What you tell yourself in the mirror matters much more than any comment on a screen. You have spent your whole life with yourself, and if you like it or not you will continue to do so. So, love yourself now because you will save yourself some trouble in the future. Know your self-worth.

I wish those years back, I could read this. I wish young Lauren was as self-aware as I am now. She was naive  and so obsessed with other people accepting her, admittedly that is somewhat a little true today, but I like to think I've picked up a thing or two.

an opinion that will matter

Tuesday, 14 March 2017

In this day and age it has become so popular to speak our minds. Fair enough we have the right and freedom to do so. We fought for the right to have an opinion and be able to share at free will. You can have an opinion on an event or something that has happened or what not, and that is okay. I am all up for constructive criticism, it is helpful and as a society it improves us.
 However, having an opinion on someone's opinion or appearance now that is another matter, if you have a problem with another person then that is your problem. What gives you the right to voice your mean thoughts and insult another person? You don't have that right to effect another person, especially one you haven't met before. What are you gaining by commenting on someone else's behaviour or appearance, it doesn't effect you how they look or act. You gain nothing, it's pointless. But if trying to lower someone's confidence genuinely brings you pure happiness, then I'm afraid you're in need if some some self evaluation instead of evaluating others.

A little rant kind of which was inspired my a little mean comment on another of my social media, which helped me out of my writer's block! 

Hold Your Tongue

Wednesday, 23 September 2015

Change, what does it mean to me?
Personally it can only mean one of two thins depending on the situation; Disastrous or a  God-Send! I generally don't like change, naturally because I can be quite awkward and anti-social, I'm also a very anxious person so I don't really mix well with change that I don't like. But I will go into detail about both opinions and the type of scenarios I do and don't like change.
Disastrous change
See if I'm put in a place I don't know, like a classroom filled with strangers or people I'm not close to, or even having to sit next to opposite sex, or just being in a change where I'm not comfortable. It's horrible, this kind of change is no good to me.
If I'm in one of the above scenarios, I will not being able to keep myself together, I will sit nervous, scared and ready to break any second. I will be aware of everything, slightly paranoid too. I will feel self conscious and think that everyone is judging me or thinking bad things about me. I just can't help it.
It takes me a while to adapt to change, if it disastrous change I will try everything to avoid it. Like think of an excuse, any excuse I would use it to avoid being a part of that change.
If something doesn't go to plan, change generally throws me off. I like to be a routine sometimes, I don't like change if I'm not content and comfortable.
If you're a teacher and thinking about putting me next to that dude, trust me your lesson may as well be non-existent. If I'm in that uncomfortable change I don't like then trust me you probably won't see m in 98% of your lessons until another change is made suitably.
People probably think I am being selfish or just picky, but I can't help it. I need to be comfortable, I'm not myself otherwise. Although I am open to change, I will try and give it a chance.
Disastrous. I don't like sudden change, maybe if it's an ease towards it then that would help. I prefer most things to stay the same, I like to know things are stable and then I can get used to them.
Moving house is a change, changing school is one too. These are the most common change, in my opinion. If I move to an area with loads of people my age or younger than is a disastrous change for me, I'm not really good with most people, I like to stay in small groups to be honest. But if I live somewhere quite then I'm content, it depends on how the place and house and area effects me.
Changing school is always disastrous. I always feel like I have to be more, I always have a fear that the change will be bad and I will left alone, which is of course always a possibility.
I just don't like to be uncomfortable, I like to happy and okay with my surroundings. I don't like being a part of things I don't know.
Here's an extreme example of a Disastrous change;
If I had to live without something close to me, or see if I had lost my imagination that would be so hard for me, that change would be nothing but a nightmare.
It's hard talking about change, cause there is so much to it and different aspect to it.
God-Send Change
This kind of change is rare for me. Literally rare.
My recent change is moving house, it's quite and small and the best place I've lived so far. This change is good.
I think if I can handle and like the change I can adapt to it well. There are those times when I get sick of things, doing the same thing. Then change it good, if it benefits me it's good. Change can be good and all but then again it can also be bad.
If the change is positive then I'm positive, if it's not I am doomed, literally.
I'm one of those people that if I'm put into a change I don't like, I tend to shut down, avoid and ignore it and pretend it never happened, that's just who I am.
I like to think I'm open minded, but I am just cautious with everything and generally think about everything. I'm a thinker and I think that because I dwell on thoughts and read too much into things then that's perhaps why I'm not so well with change.
Don't get me wrong, I won't walk away before trying it, and I guess that is what matters. I can change writing things, I can change the way I look but generally my change is always looking to make things better.
I like the change that suits me, a change that makes me content, a change that brings out the best of my abilities and personality
Sometimes I look for change, even if it is a small change, it's pleasing. I prefer the little things rather to the big things.
I like the idea of changing my lifestyle, only to better, feel better. If I don't like something I will change it, I'm willing to make changes to make life and things better,
If you're happy then you must be doing something right.
General change
Things change everyday, to everyone. Some changes are just more noticeable.
Change means different things to everyone, it effects us all differently. We all have our own thing going on, I just think that you should let people make that change for themselves and don't do it for them.
We all need to consider each other, we need to take into account not everyone will act or react the way you do. I think if you're going to make a change do it for you, and you only. Don't make changes for others, just for yourself. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first.

Change

Saturday, 15 August 2015