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For ages now I have been wanting another tattoo, particurlay a design my best friend made for me over a year ago. I fell in love with it the moment she sent me it, and I knew I'd want it on my thigh. I always talked myself out of getting it, I felt as though I needed to lose weight to get this tattoo, I didn't feel good enough.
I decided to say fuck it, why should I not get the tattoo? If I keep putting it off and waiting for something that may never happen I will regret it.
I love it, and since my best friend is a tattoo apprentice she did it for me. I have to admit, it definitely was my most painful tattoo yet. I may stay away from thigh tattoos for a while though. I am looking into starting off a sleeve, a book themed. So far I have Divergent, I am looking into gettting one for; Great Expectations, Alice and Wonderland, The Hunger Games, The Catcher in the Rye, The Great Gatsby, To Kill A Mockingbird, A Midsummer Night's Dream and much much more!
New Tattoo!
Sunday 2 April 2017
When I was younger, a few years back, I came across a video online. It was a man speaking into a camera, and women would send him photographs of themselves and in these videos, he would respond to these photographs. Complimenting them and comparing their bodies to nature, I remember him once saying 'bountiful curves like blessed mountains'. My initial thought was, he is a nice guy and he is trying to make these women feel better about themselves, but as I think about it now the sad reality of it kicks in.
Those women were essentially sending themselves to a stranger for validation, they are putting their self-worth into the mouth of this man. But, what these women perhaps do not know is; any stranger, or even a person you know, can tell you you're beautiful, but it will never mean as much as you telling yourself you are beautiful.
The only person's opinion that will truly ever matter is your own. How many compliments have you received and actually accepted at face value? What you tell yourself in the mirror matters much more than any comment on a screen. You have spent your whole life with yourself, and if you like it or not you will continue to do so. So, love yourself now because you will save yourself some trouble in the future. Know your self-worth.
I wish those years back, I could read this. I wish young Lauren was as self-aware as I am now. She was naive and so obsessed with other people accepting her, admittedly that is somewhat a little true today, but I like to think I've picked up a thing or two.
Those women were essentially sending themselves to a stranger for validation, they are putting their self-worth into the mouth of this man. But, what these women perhaps do not know is; any stranger, or even a person you know, can tell you you're beautiful, but it will never mean as much as you telling yourself you are beautiful.
The only person's opinion that will truly ever matter is your own. How many compliments have you received and actually accepted at face value? What you tell yourself in the mirror matters much more than any comment on a screen. You have spent your whole life with yourself, and if you like it or not you will continue to do so. So, love yourself now because you will save yourself some trouble in the future. Know your self-worth.
I wish those years back, I could read this. I wish young Lauren was as self-aware as I am now. She was naive and so obsessed with other people accepting her, admittedly that is somewhat a little true today, but I like to think I've picked up a thing or two.
an opinion that will matter
Tuesday 14 March 2017
So on my journey of self-love I am beginning to like my body, even when it is nude! I am becoming more confident in my curves and my wiggly bits, maybe I would still make some alterations but I am slowly warming up to it.
We shouldn't feel ashamed of our bodies, it is okay to like exactly how you look, in fact I encourage that!I like to take selfies, not for anyone's else's purpose mainly because if I feel as though I am looking good that day or in that moment I want to capture it and look at these pictures. I do share some of these on social media, it's like a collection of my favourite pictures of myself, I am aware of how self-conceited that sounds but in this day and age, is that a bad thing? Why can't I like and post pictures of myself that I really like? It's good to boost yourself up in every way possible (unless it's drugs that I don't recommend). I have Snapchat which I post things on and why do I do it? For my own amusement, I am the person who reads my Snapchat story the most. I do things for me.
I'm on a body mission, I look at myself every day naked, I really look at myself. I'm getting used to my body and each day I begin to feel that it's actually not that bad. It isn't, we see ourselves much worse than we are. I look at down myself and then in the mirror, and personally when I look down it makes me feel like I look much worse. Yet when I look at myself in the mirror my full body on show I give myself a nod and think I'm not that bad actually. If you're worried about what others see, then remember not everyone is going to love you or like how you look but (prepare for the cliche but true quote) beauty is the eye of the beholder. What that hot guy in the class is attracted to isn't ness scarily what your guy friend is attractive to, don't ever change yourself for others needs. If you want to change do it for you, not for the sake of others, that is a fools game and you will never be happy trying to alter for everyone around you.
So today compliment yourself! There is nothing wrong with being self concieted and giving yourself some love! Love you for who you are and not what you should be!
We shouldn't feel ashamed of our bodies, it is okay to like exactly how you look, in fact I encourage that!I like to take selfies, not for anyone's else's purpose mainly because if I feel as though I am looking good that day or in that moment I want to capture it and look at these pictures. I do share some of these on social media, it's like a collection of my favourite pictures of myself, I am aware of how self-conceited that sounds but in this day and age, is that a bad thing? Why can't I like and post pictures of myself that I really like? It's good to boost yourself up in every way possible (unless it's drugs that I don't recommend). I have Snapchat which I post things on and why do I do it? For my own amusement, I am the person who reads my Snapchat story the most. I do things for me.
I'm on a body mission, I look at myself every day naked, I really look at myself. I'm getting used to my body and each day I begin to feel that it's actually not that bad. It isn't, we see ourselves much worse than we are. I look at down myself and then in the mirror, and personally when I look down it makes me feel like I look much worse. Yet when I look at myself in the mirror my full body on show I give myself a nod and think I'm not that bad actually. If you're worried about what others see, then remember not everyone is going to love you or like how you look but (prepare for the cliche but true quote) beauty is the eye of the beholder. What that hot guy in the class is attracted to isn't ness scarily what your guy friend is attractive to, don't ever change yourself for others needs. If you want to change do it for you, not for the sake of others, that is a fools game and you will never be happy trying to alter for everyone around you.
So today compliment yourself! There is nothing wrong with being self concieted and giving yourself some love! Love you for who you are and not what you should be!
Love You
Wednesday 17 February 2016
I saw this image floating about the internet and it got me thinking.
Growing up I have always been a bigger girl, I was never the really thin girl. I've always had cellulite and curves for as long as I can remember. I have never looked like 'other' girls, all my friends have always been much thinner than I am. I feel from a young age I (like many others) have been conditioned to not love myself unless I was skinny or looked like everyone else. In the heat of the moment, or even out of sheer meanness people always kind of took the low blow and mention my weight (this won't be about bullying but I'll cover that in a future blog post) and so it has always been an insecurity of mine. My weight has always been a concern of mine, and I remember being maybe 10 years old and coming home crying about my weight, people making fun and just commenting. On top of this I was seeing gorgeous thin women in the media everywhere (and it is the same still) and for years my weight has been my biggest insecurity, it is to this day but I'm on a journey of self-love. I remember hanging out with my friends in year six and we were going over to one of the girls' house and they were playing on the scales, which naturally I wasn't keen on doing but with persuasion I did. They laughed, of course I was much bigger than they were, and it hurt of course it had. Since then I've had adults mention my weight, guys, girls, people who I thought were my friends and even complete strangers (I'll mention the full story in a future post) so my confidence has never been the strongest. I used to think I was fat, but I look back at myself in pictures and it makes me cry. I wasn't fat, I looked healthy and even adorable. Pictures from five years ago, I was self-conscious and I hated how I looked. God, I wish I could go back and tell my younger self that she is fine, and she should just concentrate on being happy because that is all that matters. But no now I see from there I self-destructed, food has always been the answer to most things for me. I got bigger and torn myself apart. I got unhappier with myself and my appearance, I even turned to dieting pills and they didn't have the best effect on me. Don't get me wrong I have tried dieting and going to gym regularly and it was good for me, but with exams and life I just couldn't balance everything. I turn 18 in March and it has taken me years to realize this; I've always thought of myself as fat and I'm not the only one. It's sick how the media have conditioned young people to not love themselves and to aspire to be thinner and prettier. When really we should love ourselves and as long as you're healthy that's all that should matter! Being skinny doesn't mean you're healthy. And for a guy having bulks of muscles doesn't make you a man. I've realized there is nothing wrong with being a big girl, why should I be thinner to please others? As long as I'm healthy and not putting myself in danger then I'm okay to be how I am. I know I am not completely self-loving, but it a journey I am taking and I believe I am capable of loving myself and being the happiest I can be. Why should we have to be what the media tells and shows us? I believe as long as you're happy then that's all that matters. We can be who we want to be. Join me on the road of body positivity, next time you see your reflection give yourself a compliment, you are beautiful, we all are, male, female, big, small, tall, short, fat, thin - we are all beautiful!
Body Positivity
Sunday 31 January 2016
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