My Tinder Experience(s)

(Monday's Post)


I don't usually ( or ever) talk about people I know on my blog, unless it is mentioning one of my best friends, but I never bitch about people, I don't like that type of negativity but I have an experience or two to share with you,about Tinder. I am fully aware I'm not even eighteen yet and it is stupid to even expect something serious from the dating app especially at this age. Tinder isn't bad in fact I have friends who have met amazing people on the world of Tinder, and kudos to them. It does help, it lets you connect with people, and I am not slating Tinder at all. It's just I am almost 18 and well that means since I am under the age of 18 so are all the people showing up, which means most of them are younger than me (which I stay away from) but anyways. I have two experiences so far, and well I thought I would share them, so like a story time. I will not be giving out names of the people mentioned for this purpose let's called them Jane (doe) and John (doe).
Firstly, I am not sure what made me try out the world of Tinder. I like talking to people and getting to know them and what not, but anyways.
There were matches but my first person John was the only guy I began to talk to properly. There were no cheesy pickup lines, no intentions for anything sexual and it was just genuine conversation. We got to talking daily, it was nice.I love the getting to know each other stage, it is my favourite thing ever.  So the more  John and I talked it seemed with both shared similar interests, like for instance writing. We both liked writing, and so when we decided (after much consideration) we were going to go meet we planned to bring some of our work with us to show each other. I was pretty excited, of course I was going to take caution I mean I was essentially meeting someone off the internet, so naturally I got (she insisted) my best friend to chaperone, like come and check this guy out to see if he isn't some creep. So before this meet up I went to my best friends, where she got me ready (makeup and stuff) I was making an effort, I even wore heels (I consider me wearing heels is the girliest I'll ever be). So once we were ready we went to the place and waited. I checked my phone and I was growing impatient, we were meeting at a place I felt comfortable because I wanted to be somewhere I knew, anyways. I checked my phone and well it turns out something came up and he couldn't make it. I was gutted, the weather was crap and dolled up for no reason. It wasn't a completely wasted night, me and my friend made a night of it, having tea and bubble cha and then having a good sleepover. So John was sorry and what not, I was a little annoyed at inconveniance but things happen and life goes and we decided on a later date. Don't get me wrong he was lovely but again something came up, which was apparently out of his control. We had added each other on Facebook after we started talking, and well a week or two after another cancelled date he is in a relationship with another girl. Yeah so thanks mate? Things happen but if he wasn't that into me he could have said, it's not like I would flipped my lid, I just want honesty. I decided to leave it, his heart and head was clearly elsewhere so I just left the whole situation. We didn't talk much after that. So I moved on and continued to Tinder.
My second experience, which is after John.  I got talking to Jane, I found her very attractive and lovely. She was so kind and lovely, like seriously. We talked and talked for a couple of months, and well honestly I felt myself becoming attached at times. I'd send her messages in the morning  like 'Good morning beautiful have a lovely day', I'd send her compliments through the day, I just wanted to make her happy. She was lovely back. Somedays we would go without talking but when we talked it was lovely we talked about interests and got to know each other. Recently it started to get heated like the messages were you know going somewhere. And things were just getting heated but we still had the cute messages between us on top of that. Last week, she messaged do I want to hook up after college, we hadn't talked about meeting yet, but I had things to do so I couldn't if I wanted to. We talked about the whole hook up thing and well it kind of hit me, that is all she wants. And well I recently realised her facebook page was she was in a relationship with this guy. I assumed it was her gay best friend, we had talked about him previously and she told me she was his music manager, she got him gigs and stuff because he sings. Then I kind of noticed it looked more than that, so I straight up asked, I mean I wasn't going to get the answer by thinking about it, turns out she is in a relationship with him, and has been for a while, and she still wanted to hook up. It annoyed me because I obviously was attracted to her and then to find out for months her motive was to just hook up and that's she's already in a relationship, yeah but no thanks. I'd hate to be the other girl or worse the person being cheated on, that's just not for me.
But yeah as you can tell I haven't had the best of luck with dating and Tinder. I don't feel malice towards John or Jane, things happen and we learn from experiences.I think I'll stay away from Tinder for a while at least until I'm 18 then I can deal with adults, plus I've always liked older guys and girls anyways.
If you're on Tinder I hope you're having better luck than I did! And if not then don't worry about it. Maybe these things aren't supposed to be forced and they will happen naturally or whenever really. I am no expert clearly.